I love weddings. But these days, I can't help to think that many are confusing a wedding for the marriage. *sighs* There is a huge difference between a wedding and a marriage. Yeah. I'd like to share a bit from the presentation I did on "the concept of marriage" yesterday.
2 Truths about Marriage
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It breaks my heart to hear the break-up of marriages all over the world are increasing rapidly. Current studies show that 47% of all marriages end in divorce. The numbers are not separated from those who go to church and those who don't. I find it a little scary. What in the world is happening???
From generation to generation, the world has attempted to define marriage in diverse dimensions. And all these have brought disappointment, heart break, sorrows, frustration, and unhappiness. I've read a number of books, Christian and non-Christian articles on marriage. I've listened to a number of the radio "experts" - real and supposed. I've heard a sermon or two on marriage. But these truths will forever stand. . .
God is the author of marriage
In the beginning, God said, "it is not good that the man should be alone…" (Gen. 2: 18). It is a fact that man is a social being. His life is enhanced and increased with good relationships. God then said, "…I will make an help meet for him." And God created the woman. That is the origin of marriage right there. It is the union of a man and a woman. The union is to make life better, more fun and fulfilling. Marriage is a beautiful thing. I like to imagine God saying, "Oh, see what I have created, it looks so. . .beautiful!"
God is the author, creator and designer of marriage not man, government or Satan. He made the marriage to be a monogamous relationship between one man and one woman. Gen 1:26. Eve (and only Eve), not multiple women, was made for Adam. "They twain shall be one flesh," The play and emphasis is on the numbers; "two" and "one". Marriage is monogamous and God was never pleased with polygamy as practised subsequent to Genesis 2. Regardless of the rules and policies set by the government on sex and marriage today, it doesn't change the standard of God.
Marriage is a lifetime covenant
My sweet mum will always say; Marriage is not for children. I couldn't agree more. Marriage is a vow, an oath, a total commitment for life. Marriage is no child's play. One of my best moments at weddings (aside from "you may now kiss your bride". Lol) are the exchange of vows.
The groom is asked, "Will thou have this woman to thy wedded wife, to live together after God's ordinance in the holy estate of Matrimony? Will thou love her, comfort her, honour, and keep her in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all other, keep thee only unto her, so long as ye both shall live?" He promises, before God and everyone (as he probably looks into the woman's beautiful eyes) , and declares "Yes, I will."
The bride is also asked, "Will thou have this man to thy wedded husband, to live together after God's ordinance in the holy estate of Matrimony? Wilt thou obey him, and serve him, love, honour, and keep him in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all other, keep thee only unto him, so long as ye both shall live?" She commits too, "yes, I will."
There is nothing more spiritual than that. We are bound by our words. The spiritual aspect is crucial to the health and success of every marriage. Couples with a strong shared faith do have an advantage over those who don’t. That's why I still don't get the point where a "Christian" would marry one who doesn't believe and confess Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour. Like seriously mehn, how do they do that???
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So what is my point? My point is Christians should marry in a godly way. Seek God's guidance and choose His will for your life. His will is perfect for you.
Biko, let those who are married, stay married!!! *pensive* Whatever it is, try to work it out. Plea....se! Don't let the enemy prevail over your marriage. The devil knows the power of a godly marriage. He's fighting to pull the family apart. May God uphold yours in the light of His grace and love.
It is very important that we do not plan to have a fabulous wedding while we fail to pray (as well as plan) to have a God-centered, happy-ending, love-abounding and purposeful marriage.
What if you were unable to have a wedding; no toast, no guests, no dress, no cake. Would you still take the vows of commitment to stay together. . . forever?
Written by Nwamaka Ajaegbu
Follow on Twitter: @Amakamedia
Email: amakamedia@yahoo.com
What if you were unable to have a wedding; no toast, no guests, no dress, no cake. Would you still take the vows of commitment to stay together. . . forever?
Written by Nwamaka Ajaegbu
Follow on Twitter: @Amakamedia
Email: amakamedia@yahoo.com
Heart Rays . . .giving out the light.
